Top 10 Online Dating Questions To Learn His Secrets Faster

Great work, ladies! You’re online dating and you’ve met Mr. Full of Possibilities through an Online Dating Site. But guess what, sweetheart? You’re eventually going to get to the dreaded Q&A session that inevitably comes from wanting to know more about Mr. Maybe The One.

Just so happens that Heidi Lee thought you may be struggling with this topic, so she reached within the Toad Kingdom and asked for my advice.

I’m Eric, and as hopefully a Frog rather than a Toad, I’m thrilled to be able to share a few pointers to help you in your journey.

First and most importantly – you don’t want questions too personal, too hard, too desperate, or how shall I say this? … well, too blunt.

However, you would also like to know what the guy is about, so you can cut him short if he’s a dud.

Be honest, ladies. How many guys have you asked about their favorite band? Dull!

More boring yet …”What do you do for a living?” Statistics show that men grow tired of answering the same-old questions on the first date, and they especially don’t like to be put into a corner about their careers.

Gals, you’re in luck. It just so happens that I AM one of those guys you might want to meet, and I’m here to share a few secrets with you.

The 10 Best Online Dating Questions To Learn His Secrets Faster

1.    What about me first caught your attention? This is a straight-forward question that will give the sincere/good guy the opportunity to shimmer in the sunlight, and the insincere/bad ones the invitation to bumble through their pre-written answers, and end up looking like a jerk. Make sure that you are talking to a real guy who has time to answer you.

2.    What is something that most women don’t understand about men? This will give you a hint, as to any past problems he’s had in relationships, as well as any unrealistic expectations or demands he tends to place on women. Let him tell you his insecurities, before finding them out yourself.

3.    What is the most exciting purchase you made this year? Mine was… Fights about finance area big deal breaker in all relationships. If you have a certain style of saving or spending money, it is probably a good idea to make sure that a guy can hang with that. Frugal partners don’t get along with spendthrifts, and vice versa. To throw him off, answer the question, before awaiting his turn.

4.    What does it take to achieve a good relationship? In other words, what are his values, goals, and interests in maintaining a close, intimate relationship? This question will also give you a hint as to his level of maturity, and what you could probably expect from a long-term relationship with him.

5.    If a relationship does not work out for you, how do you usually end it? This will tell you how much he is willing to invest in a partnership. Guys who are in it just for fun, don’t think about ending a relationship, as they have no plan of getting into one in the first place.

6.    What was your most embarrassing moment? Studies show that humor is essential in every relationship. You don’t have to be a comedian. However, it is important that you can at least laugh at yourself when the moment calls for it.

7.    What do you think is the best thing about being single? In other words, how ready is he to get off the market? It’s great to be content in bachelorhood. However, if he gushes over his lifestyle too much, he may not be willing to give it up. Just beware of this before investing any significant time.

8.    What is your idea of the perfect first date? Few questions can really get to the heart of romance within a guy more than this one. If you’re wondering if he is a ‘flowers and candlelight’ type of guy, or a ‘take you back to his apartment’ after the second drink? This is where you’ll get the first hint.

9.    Does your family live nearby? How often do you get to see them? Some partners are the family- type, and others are not. However, rarely will the two fit together in harmony, unless they both have similar ideas about what a family is. If you love your family, and want your partner to love them too; make sure he is a ‘family guy’.

10.  Can we swap tomorrow’s date for a different day? Easy going guys are the best type to have, especially for the women with kids (or planning to have them someday). It is important to know that a guy can roll with the punches, or in this case, that he can roll with a change of plans, which is frequently necessary when you have more than just two people to satisfy.

Try the questions out when you’re dreading the Q&A rounds with your would-be Prince Charmings. I can tell you for certain that a lady with interesting questions certainly catches my eye.

Happy Dating!

Eric Leech

Having grown up in a rather Y-chromosome deficient neighborhood, I spent my childhood playing house, Barbies (vs. G.I. Joe)… and the classic, Truth or Dare. Several years down the road, I attended Colorado State University where I earned four degrees in Psychology (emphasis on human sexuality), Social Sciences, English, and Theater Arts. I have since found myself putting my education to good use, writing relationship and sex advice articles for various books (Love, Lust, and Relationships (http://www.datingsite.org)), magazine columns, and dating websites (http://www.datingwebsites.org/).

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Online Dating Coupon For Match.com

Online Dating Coupon? Really? Cool!

If you’ve been sitting on the fence about whether to jump into Online Dating, I haven’t seen a better time than today. It seems that the Online Dating Giant, Match.com is offering 2 new coupons to help you dive right in.

CouponBuzz is the host to coupon codes for 20% off from your Match Subscription and another for posting a free online dating profile.

Keep in mind should you use the free profile coupon that your access to other members on the site will be limited. To get the most out of the sites, you do need a paid membership and a well-written profile.

So for all of my extreme-couponers, bargain shoppers or simply for my dear friends who have otherwise been afraid to commit to Online Dating – Go For It!

And thank you, Match.com!

Click here to use the coupons!

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Author, Blogger, Online Dating Expert and Master Toad Kisser, Heidi Lee, is a 40-something professional who managed to successfully navigate the Toad Kingdom. Finding Happily-Ever-After wasn’t easy – experiences ranged from humorous, to tense and straight into frightening. However, she did it, and she developed some simple rules to help others guide their way to meeting others.

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Online Dating Bootcamp Extreme Profile Makeover I

YourTango Bootcamp guys and gals – this one’s for you! An extreme profile makeover!

Online Dating Profile still tricky no matter how many tips you read? Do you need an example of how a fun, flirty profile gets designed?

A favorite client of mine, lets call her Dyna(mo) was struggling through the Wonderful Online Dating world that I lovingly call The Toad Kingdom. She’s a fascinating woman with so much to offer. BUT … she was attracting all the wrong men.

Men still wanting to be breast fed …

Men still living in Mom’s basement

Men seen on last night’s America’s Most Wanted …

She asked me to take a peek into her profile and help her figure out what she could do better (she even said I could share it with you – WOOT!).

Ms. Dyna is a lively, comedic young woman of barely 40, so she wanted to attract a man with a great deal of passion and energy in his life. Thinking that meant younger, she wrote towards Generation-Y. Nothing at all wrong with that, but if you are looking for James Bond he was a bit older. 

As you will see from the profile, the handsome Gen-Xers and borderline Boomers were missing out on a fabulous broad based on misperception of immaturity …

Ms Dyna writes …

I live a quiet life in a small, village in the mountains with my 2 dogs (it’s my cover, really)… As being in the big city fuels my energy and and fascination with art, culture and above all: CHAOS!    (btw… I am not Italian, I am CANADIAN)

See, I hope to meet someone active with similar interests, for cultivating a friendship and maybe one day a good relationship. BUT OK, in all honestly if you are a mad-scientist (or similar) striving for the greater good for all humanity, carrying the torch with Amnesty International, riding the waves with Greenpeace, a simple Super-Hero, or at least a mutant à la X-Men (I LOVE X-Men), then we shall get along fabulously. As I am “super loyal” and would make an awesome side-kick/partner in crime (the Robin Hood variety), and an edgy kind of accessory to your infinite coolness. But YOU HAVE TO like dogs – specifically my English Setters, (even if they shed their fur all over your trousers, and super-hero gear), because they are MY sidekicks and I love them to bits.

I like to keep active ie. leaping over tall buildings, hiking, running semi-regularly, and maintaining a healthy lifestyle is important to me… (although Sundays I will make an exception as “The Feast of a Canadian’s Sunday Brunch” is sacred.)

I ‘m not permanently ‘nailed down’ to my location so welcome corresponding with Super-Heros of foreign lands – OUTSIDE ITALY, as who knows where life can take you, right? (One sec, I’ll grab my jet-pack.)

As you all see – she cracks me (and herself) up. But we needed to find a balance between the comedic elegance that she actually offers up.

Over the next week, we will examine her  her humor and her goals as well as her human-to-dog ratio. This time next week, she’ll have a shiny new essay to support her gorgeous photos.

Stay tuned …

And if you would like to see another mouthwatering Extreme Makeover – check out the end of my eBook

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And for a peek at my own journey through the Toad Kingdom, enjoy the first chapter of my memoir – The Art of Toad Kissing - here on the website. I’d love to hear your thoughts on it …

xoxo

Heidi Lee

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April Toad Of The Month

Species Name: Spineless Door-Mattius

  • Common Name(s): Pushover Toad / Matt
  • Species Description: Easily identifiable by the gelatinous back side, this species typically has a fat wallet and thin self-esteem. Pushover’s baggage is well beyond what he carries for his host through the mall. Monogamous to a fault, this toad often sadly finds himself pushed out of the host’s nest by the vertebraed-varieties of toad.
  • Mating Calls: “Did you want the Movado to go with that necklace? I can buy you both pairs so you don’t have to choose …” And “Will a new pair of shoes help your headache go away tonight?” or the worst croak of all …  “Of course, Sir, you can cut in …”
  • Habitat and Distribution: Typically found in protective mode on mall benches, camouflaged by colorful bags and tucking away receipts. The stronger of this particular species may burrow in so deep that he finds permanent dwellings. 
  • Distinguishing Characteristics: Easily identifiable by the natural castration, unmistakable battle marks scar the translucent outer skin. Fat wallet filled with Platinum replaced the testicles and acts as a natural defense mechanism. When faced with a stressed environment or fraternal enemy, the blinding reflections from the multitude of plastic creates momentary confusion in the attacker – allowing pushover to move his host out of range of the stronger Toad species such as Freeloader Toad.
  • Symptoms of Infestation: Hosts are most susceptible to Mattius following a few rounds playing caretaker to the Tuberius varieties as the frustration resulting from playing wet nurse often weakens defense mechanisms against the Platinum wallet. This toad latches on to the host female by creating a gem-induced euphoria that – if left untreated – becomes delusional misconceptions of love. The passionless, familial intimate connection; the host female often begins fantasizing about the mating calls from the Deranged Militantius to satisfy the reproductive needs not able to be met by the castrated Door-Mattius.

Friends, I realize that we all have a unique fondness for this creature – but do both you and him a service. If there is no attraction, cut him loose – otherwise he preys too much on your weakness for shoes – and you end up in a game of sex for guilt.

Trust me … The right guy builds you a shoe closet instead …

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Religion And Its Place In Online Dating: A Reader Question

Religion got you perplexed on Match.com or eHarmony? Need to know how to use the canned, I’ll tell you later response instead?

Is finding someone within your same religion important to you, or are you open to a mixed-faith relationship?

Consider these important questions choosing an Online Dating – the sites aren’t all the same.

My reader last week struggled with how to answer Religion in a profile that she had already purchased. I’d advise answering this question yourself Before you commit to your site of choice. Here’s why …

Dear Heidi Lee,

Now that I’ve got a mouth-watering Online Dating essay, I’m trying answer the other questions. The site asks about religion, and the options let me either declare my faith or choose an option like “I’ll tell you later.”

How do I answer this? I mean, I was raised Catholic but I’m not practicing. Is that going to turn men off? Geez – this stuff is like rocket science. Help!

Thanks in advance, Gina.

I did send Gina a private note to help her on her way, but she allowed me to share her question with you, my kindred spirits in the Toad Kingdom.

This question isn’t yet well addressed in the Mainstream Toad Kingdom. We are left dangling to figure it our for ourselves.

While Gina is Catholic, she doesn’t meet the stereotypes built in to the Mainstream. And like it or not, we all make assumptions. 

Selecting Catholic on a Mainstream site may eliminate her from  Searches where men (or women) may mistakenly assume Catholic translates to Devout. If the other person makes  the religion a deal-breaker,  this sweet girl won’t make it to his search engine.

See the challenge?

Mainstream sites are mainstream for a reason – to suit the majority. Personally, I used Mainstream because I was open to meeting people from outside of my religion – and in 2007 / 2008 the Niche sites were not as widely known.

In the Religion box, I marked Christian, but I didn’t make it a must have in my potential match. I was open to all religions whether Christian, Jewish or Buddhist.

For the record, my Prince Charming used “Spiritual but not Religious”.

I dated a Toad who happened to bea devout Catholic. He was very unhappy to meet me after an online email flirtation to find that my choice of Christian Faith was Lutheran. He simply was not open to dating a Protestant and he jumped to the assumption that Christian meant Catholic.

For my ex-Toad – who to my knowledge is still Single & Looking, I would recommend a Niche site rather than Mainstream because finding a like-minded Catholic girl was his First Priority – even if it was not clearly stated.

If dating within the Christian faith was my dealbreaker, I may have sought love on ChristianMingle.com Either way, these Niche sites serve to improve your chances at finding long-lasting love.

Gina’s question also sent me to a lovely memory from last year - a trip that I took to Napa Valley with my Prince Charming. We enjoyed a wine tasting tour with a lovely couple who met on a Muslim dating site. They simply glowed together, and I hope that they found love.

She explained to me that finding a single, Muslim man with a good job and a great heart was not easy as a successful Muslim woman in Texas – and he was willing to travel to meet someone who shared his beliefs. They used MuslimFriends.com, but I also found  ArabLounge.com for my Muslim readers.

Finally, Jewish Citizens of the Toad Kingdom may want to look at JDate.com to find stunning men and women who share their own core value system.

The great news is that there are sites for everyone from Animal Lovers to Adulterers – and everything in between. The odds of finding love increase significantly if you select a site that targets your preferred dating pool.

Loving Regards,

Heidi Lee

P.S. I’m happy to answer Questions from the Toad Kingdom. Each question gets a personal response. I may even feature it as as article (although names are only revealed with your permission)

P.S.S. I must state that this article is written to educate on real-world challenges that center around religion – based on a personal experience. That’s it. I’m not picking on anyone :)

 

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Author, Blogger, Online Dating Expert and Master Toad Kisser, Heidi Lee, is a 40-something professional who managed to successfully navigate the Toad Kingdom. Finding Happily-Ever-After wasn’t easy – experiences ranged from humorous, to tense and straight into frightening. However, she did it, and she developed some simple rules to help others guide their way to meeting others.

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Online Dating Questions: When To Favorite Your Favorites

Questions in Online Dating … From the Toad Kingdom …

“Curious to hear your thoughts on “favourite-ing” or the “-insert name here’ wants to meet you!” functions on some of the sites.” my lovely, virtual new friend recently inquired.

She continues to explain, “I don’t personally use this kind of contact initiation method. I feel it’s it’s a bit of a ‘lazy way’ (passive agressive even, maybe) to make contact. Still, I’d like to hear the expert’s take on it!”

The little known favorite feature is also one of the most misunderstood and overly abused. True and honest in purpose, this handy resource is bastardized into a stalker’s dream – and covered in Toad tracks.

But, my Dear Friends, favoriting a potential Match should be seen as a compliment when used appropriately. So, how can you tell intentions between a frog and a toad?

Remember, first and foremost, Toads Lurk … and then they infest …

Toads will view your profile many times over without ever initiating contact. Toads will show up in your recent views each day, but they will never send a wink. They will wait for you to make the first move – to wave them in towards the finish line.

However, newbies in the Toad Kingdom – as well as busy professionals – depend upon the favorite feature to help them discover and re-find interesting people they happen upon.

Newbies to the Toad Kingdom need a little leniency. Think back to when you were fresh. You felt like you were in a candy store, right? Did you put a mental note on your favorite bin of gummy worms to come back to it? After you’ve seen what else was available?

This is perfectly acceptable for the youngsters. However, I would caution the little ones of the time factor. If you favorite  someone, be sure to connect within 48 hours. Otherwise you appear to be a creepy stalker-toad. The tool works against you. If you favorite someone, reach out and flirt – as soon as you are ready. And if you decide against it, unmark him or her as soon as you decide so they don’t get the heebie jeebies from you.

Next – the busy professional – this was me. When I was surfing the Toad Kingdom, I would sneak on occasionally between meetings. If I found someone I wanted to meet, I would mark him as a favorite -  with every intention of sending a flirt, a wink or a note at my first opportunity (and within the 48 hours). I just didn’t want to rush into a poorly thought first note, and I hoped to return to the profile at my first opportunity/

My husband Prince Charming, however naive, never knew that using the favorite feature became visible to the other people. He was likely mistaken often for a Toad.

Important to note – at least on Match.com – when you favorite a prospect he or she can see that you have done so. Use this feature sparingly.

So, my Dear friend, passive-aggressive? Maybe the Toads … Keep an eye out for how long you stay in such apparent high esteem (you will – I’ve seen your pics, honey). Give them a chance to step up.

Caution, though, don’t you reach out. That is a sure-fire way to help them hide their true intentions. If you find yourself honored with the favorite feature, wait it out. A toad can’t hide his warts forever. But your Prince might just be crafting his words in courtship – totally true if seemingly corny …

Warmest Regards,

Heidi Lee

For Cakes: May your adventures in the Toad Kingdom bring humor to your writing and wisdom in knowing when to kick’em in the balls … And may you come back to me to share in a Toad Survival sisterhood …

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Author, Blogger, Online Dating Expert and Master Toad Kisser, Heidi Lee, is a 40-something professional who managed to successfully navigate the Toad Kingdom. Finding Happily-Ever-After wasn’t easy – experiences ranged from humorous, to tense and straight into frightening. However, she did it, and she developed some simple rules to help others guide their way to meeting others.

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Finding Love Online Now Recommended By Experts

Can you find love Online? Some experts are now saying that Internet Dating may not be all that it is cracked-up to be.

Last week the Association for Psychological Science released a study that says that finding love through an algorithm may not be anymore of a sure thing than those traditional methods.

Great. Now what? You haven’t met the love of your life at the gym, in the bakery or the dreaded singles bar. Now the experts come out and tell you that your efforts online may not be any better.

Crap! Seriously?

Well, what if I told you that Online Dating is recommended by The Most Influential Expert in the History of Civilization?

That’s right, friends. Mom. Online Dating is recommended by Mom. Now how’s that for an expert?

Mom told us that chicken soup is comforting – It Is.

Mom told us that there were no monsters under the bed. There weren’t.

Mom promised that our broken hearts would heal. They do.

And now, Mom is the living example of how wonderful romance can be – found Online.

Online Dating Experts Mom & Heidi Lee

Yep. My Mom has been meeting delightful men on SeniorPeopleMeet.com and having a ball doing so. And this past weekend, PC and I had dinner with her and her handsome new beau.

Mom was radiant, and her romantic-interest is clearly smitten. And my Mom – she is a 71 year old dynamo – unbelievable lady. And her guy – funny, clever and a perfect gentleman.

The best thing though, he asked whether he was a Toad, a Frog, or her Prince Charming. I’d have to say – smart enough to wonder must make him a frog at the very least.

Go Mom!

And Go Online Dating! Friends and Citizens of the Toad Kingdom, there will always be experts in favor of it and experts against it. The important opinion, though, is yours. If it feels good and makes you happy – then do it.

As Mom would say, follow your heart, Dear. But make sure you carry cab fare just in case.

Now you know who recommended it to me. Thanks Mom!

Warm Regards,

Heidi Lee

P.S. By the way, Dental Hygienists approve as well.

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Author, Blogger, Online Dating Expert and Master Toad Kisser, Heidi Lee, is a 40-something professional who managed to successfully navigate the Toad Kingdom. Finding Happily-Ever-After wasn’t easy – experiences ranged from humorous, to tense and straight into frightening. However, she did it, and she developed some simple rules to help others guide their way to meeting others.

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Online Dating Advice at YourTango

Happy Saturday, dear friendonline dating advices!

I’m hanging out today over at Your Tango giving online dating advice. Would you mind visiting me over there to learn about my Three Step Wink-Management System for Match.com?

I promise to help you figure out when to wink and when to email with that cute guy that has been eyeing up your Online Dating Profile!

And I’ve got something special planned for you here next week. Tune in Tuesday for my special guest who can teach you how to Sleep Naked After 40! Tips I can’t wait to learn :)

Kind Regards,

Heidi Lee

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Author, Blogger, Online Dating Expert and Master Toad Kisser, Heidi Lee, is a 40-something professional who managed to successfully navigate the Toad Kingdom. Finding Happily-Ever-After wasn’t easy – experiences ranged from humorous, to tense and straight into frightening. However, she did it, and she developed some simple rules to help others guide their way to meeting others.

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Online Dating Lessons from Lola

Good Morning, Dear Friends!

I’d love to invite you all to stop over to visit the enchanting Ms. Emily Suess. She was kind enough to ask me to guest post today on her blog, so I took a little time away to give her readers something special. And of course, I wanted to share this story with you all as well – those near and dear to me.

This story – how I became a writer – actually highlights my public entry into the Online Dating World, and I love looking back to what I’ve learned since then.

Please stop over and visit:

Reinventing Lola

While you are there, please take a peek at some of Emily’s work. I love how fresh and engaging she is as a writer! And I love to get my subscriptions telling me she has shared a new nugget.

Enjoy!

xoxo,

Heidi lee

Online Dating Confession from a Toad

Not for the faint of heart…

Never - when I asked our dear Toad, Jake, to tell me his Lessons Learned so far about Online Dating – did I anticipate the depth of spirit he would share with us. He wrote us a letter, and he intends to write to us often as he experiences Online Dating. I won’t take anymore of your reading attention with my words. Instead, I give you Jake…

Dear Heidi Lee,

When I came to you with the idea of personally joining Match.com to find a relationship, I was thrilled that you offered your help. I also really enjoy seeing my adventures immortalized in your blog. I thought it would be fun and I trusted your instincts. I’ve seen your relationship with your own Prince Charming (aka PC) first hand, and I’d hoped your guidance would help me find that same magic.

Yet I have to acknowledge upfront that this project has spiraled into something I never imagined. Had I known what I was faced with, I would have never volunteered.  However, you’re my friend. Now that I’ve made the commitment to this endeavor and to you, my personal code of conduct mandates that I follow through.  But, Heidi Lee, it’s hard. I’m looking at myself and the man I feel like I have been. I see now that I have to become…

So let’s begin with what I’ve learned from you about myself. My only stipulation is that you do not judge me too harshly or see me shrouded in a perpetual cloak of ignorance. You are my friend, and that would hurt.

I never actually had a successful relationship in any capacity.  I’ve gone from one micro-relationship to another (or should I say I’ve been a Toad-Hopping from bed to bed?) I’ve done this all my life.  I prided myself in the belief that I held a keen understanding of what women want only to learn at 41 that I couldn’t have been farther from the truth.

I have dated, and yes, I use that term carelessly, women who were between 18 and 25.  I’ve always told you that I dated these younger women because I lived in a college town with limited options. Now I confess that this is not entirely true.

I never understood that my geographic location wasn’t the only reason for my perpetually young, ever changing, flock of female companions. Funny thing is you did, you called me on it, and I’m grateful that you forced me to open my eyes to reality.  I guess on some level, buried deep within, I couldn’t deny that I was (and still am) incapable of having an adult relationship.  Hence, Lesson #1:

  • Women don’t date boys, and boys aren’t capable of dating women.

Despite a list of what others may consider to be my sexual conquests, I’ve never felt good about the ease at which I leaped from one bedroom to the next. It secretly sickened me.  What I never realized was that I wasn’t just hurting myself. I was actually hurting these women as well. Although I never intended to do harm, my collateral damage remains in the aftermath.  I hid from the ugliness of my behavior and the reality of my actions behind a pretense of self-righteousness, anchored in a pool of arrogance and vanity.  I was actually pompous enough to believe – to hold as concrete – that I was doing these women a favor by sleeping with them. Hence, Lesson #2:

  • What women deserve from men comes from North of the equator!

Heidi Lee, it’s been said that “the truth hurts”. To be quite honest with you I don’t know how much more truth I’ll be able to handle.  In this short time I’ve already seen enough to know that this journey will be a painful education into self-discovery…which leads me to the lesson that keeps me engaged in this process:

  • I owe this to myself, to my sons, and to all the women in my past, present and future.

In light of my confession, I’ll take this next step with you, Heidi Lee. I want to begin this process in earnest by apologizing to all those that I’ve hurt and by forgiving myself for leading a less than respectable life.

Respectfully,

BD – Jake

P.S. As instructed, I will be dining out this evening with just me, myself, and a good book – so that I can learn that my own skin can be a happy place to live.