Religion got you perplexed on Match.com or eHarmony? Need to know how to use the canned, I’ll tell you later response instead?
Is finding someone within your same religion important to you, or are you open to a mixed-faith relationship?
My reader last week struggled with how to answer Religion in a profile that she had already purchased. I’d advise answering this question yourself Before you commit to your site of choice. Here’s why …
Dear Heidi Lee,
Now that I’ve got a mouth-watering Online Dating essay, I’m trying answer the other questions. The site asks about religion, and the options let me either declare my faith or choose an option like “I’ll tell you later.”
How do I answer this? I mean, I was raised Catholic but I’m not practicing. Is that going to turn men off? Geez – this stuff is like rocket science. Help!
Thanks in advance, Gina.
I did send Gina a private note to help her on her way, but she allowed me to share her question with you, my kindred spirits in the Toad Kingdom.
This question isn’t yet well addressed in the Mainstream Toad Kingdom. We are left dangling to figure it our for ourselves.
While Gina is Catholic, she doesn’t meet the stereotypes built in to the Mainstream. And like it or not, we all make assumptions.
Selecting Catholic on a Mainstream site may eliminate her from Searches where men (or women) may mistakenly assume Catholic translates to Devout. If the other person makes the religion a deal-breaker, this sweet girl won’t make it to his search engine.
See the challenge?
Mainstream sites are mainstream for a reason – to suit the majority. Personally, I used Mainstream because I was open to meeting people from outside of my religion – and in 2007 / 2008 the Niche sites were not as widely known.
In the Religion box, I marked Christian, but I didn’t make it a must have in my potential match. I was open to all religions whether Christian, Jewish or Buddhist.
For the record, my Prince Charming used “Spiritual but not Religious”.
I dated a Toad who happened to bea devout Catholic. He was very unhappy to meet me after an online email flirtation to find that my choice of Christian Faith was Lutheran. He simply was not open to dating a Protestant and he jumped to the assumption that Christian meant Catholic.
For my ex-Toad – who to my knowledge is still Single & Looking, I would recommend a Niche site rather than Mainstream because finding a like-minded Catholic girl was his First Priority – even if it was not clearly stated.
If dating within the Christian faith was my dealbreaker, I may have sought love on ChristianMingle.com Either way, these Niche sites serve to improve your chances at finding long-lasting love.
Gina’s question also sent me to a lovely memory from last year - a trip that I took to Napa Valley with my Prince Charming. We enjoyed a wine tasting tour with a lovely couple who met on a Muslim dating site. They simply glowed together, and I hope that they found love.
She explained to me that finding a single, Muslim man with a good job and a great heart was not easy as a successful Muslim woman in Texas – and he was willing to travel to meet someone who shared his beliefs. They used MuslimFriends.com, but I also found ArabLounge.com for my Muslim readers.
Finally, Jewish Citizens of the Toad Kingdom may want to look at JDate.com to find stunning men and women who share their own core value system.
The great news is that there are sites for everyone from Animal Lovers to Adulterers – and everything in between. The odds of finding love increase significantly if you select a site that targets your preferred dating pool.
P.S. I’m happy to answer Questions from the Toad Kingdom. Each question gets a personal response. I may even feature it as as article (although names are only revealed with your permission)
P.S.S. I must state that this article is written to educate on real-world challenges that center around religion – based on a personal experience. That’s it. I’m not picking on anyone