The definition of insanity – doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
Why do I mention this today? For you, my lovelorn friend. You know who you are 
You’ve winked and emailed, and now you’ve even met a couple of times. You feel a connection to him, but you seem to be chasing that connection rather than letting it grow naturally.
He feeds you wonderful thoughts when you are together, but everything and everyone in his life seems more important than you. But … maybe if you could just get another date with him … well then, maybe …
Sitting by the phone waiting for a last minute text or call on Friday afternoon, you sell yourself excuses that he simply has been too busy to ask you out for the weekend. And lacking any dating rules, you are all set to forgive and say yes if that phone should happen to ring.
You’ve met this same guy before … Remember, you went out with him a few times last year? He broke your heart and left you wondering what you could have done differently.
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I know, I know – not the exact same guy – but the same Toad Variety nonetheless.
Remember the guy last year who enchanted you online, and who made you swoon? You thought you were head-over-heels in love, but you couldn’t get him to commit to even seeing you two nights in the same week? Do you remember how frustrated you were, and how long you moped when he just sort of vanished from your life?
My wish for you … since you can’t train a toad … change your own behaviors. You, my friend, are strong, lovely and wonderful. You deserve to meet Prince Charming, so please stop answering the Toad Mating Calls.
Set some dating rules for yourself as you meet all of these wonderful specimens from the Toad Kingdom. Here you go; I’ll get you started …
Rule #1: I will not accept last minute invitations for Friday Nights.
Rule #2: If I don’t have plans for Friday by Wednesday, I will ask a gal pal for a Friday Night Girls’ Night Out.
Rule #3: If I meet a guy who makes me feel like I am chasing him, I will move on and accept that he is at best just a frog but perhaps even a vile, warty toad.
Rule #4 … Alrighty, citizens of the Toad Kingdom, Let’s hear what you’ve got! Give me some rules. Post them in the comments below, and help my girlfriend out!
Loving Regards,
Heidi Lee
P.S. May I share something that I am celebrating? EHarmony recently published an article that was inspired by you, Dear Friends, in the Toad Kingdom. I’d love your feedback on Creating Your Stationery … as we know posting photos within your Party Invitation.
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Author, Blogger, Online Dating Expert and Master Toad Kisser, Heidi Lee, is a 40-something professional who managed to successfully navigate the Toad Kingdom. Finding Happily-Ever-After wasn’t easy – experiences ranged from humorous, to tense and straight into frightening. However, she did it, and she developed some simple rules to help others guide their way to meeting others.
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Pay attention to small details, bits of weirdness, things that don’t add up, and take them seriously.
These are a few examples…
Work schedule “I’m working out of town for 4 days” then he calls ubnexpectedly after 2 days and wants to go out and then when you mention his schedule he tries to cover up his little error.
A man can only meet you at odd times of the day, cancels quasi-last minute, cel phone is off – he can get you but you can’t get him.
OR… he says he owns/lives in his own place, then later says he actually lives with his parents and is moving in a couple of weeks into the place he just bought (he wanted it to be “a surprise.”)
Good pointers, Dear Cakes … Thanks for sharing. I’m guessing by the sound of things, you’ve run into a couple of the Married Variety of Toad who should be on AshleyMadison.com rather than in the mainstream dating sites. Those are some of the WORST toads in the kingdom. Appreciate you, dear!
I can give this piece of advice: be prepared for the attention he bestowed on you via email and text to taper off drastically once he’s met you in person. My phone will blow up daily, then I meet the guy, and then —- hmmmm.
Here’s my new rule: never meet a guy in person. Stick with the fantasy ;p
LOL … Darling, I’m going to get some info out for you about first dates …promise
Rule of thumb, keep ‘em short ,,, End when the energy is still high
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