Online Dating? Have you been emailing with a wonderful man on that Online Dating Site this week?
Hold on, dear friend, you haven’t even met this person yet.
Give me the next 2.37 minutes of your day to let me warn you about Email Enchantment – a very dangerous Toad Trap that exposes your weaknesses – disarming you with your own charms.
Email is the perfect exchange for casual conversation to help you get to know your potential suitors. A few exchanges can show you enough about the other person to decide if you want to move to the next step – a cup of coffee.
However, email very easily becomes intimate and revealing. I’m the first to admit guilt in this one – I’ve done it. I’ve opened up in email and said too much about my hopes and dreams. I mistook the email exchange for a true romantic connection.
When someone on the other end of the World Wide Web encourages us with phrases like; I understand … or, That must have been so hard for you … we are inspired to open our hearts and continue sharing.
And the Toad continues to encourage with If only we were together now I would pull you into my arms …
Now you’re hooked, right? And ready to give this person your world without another thought.
Dear one, this is very dangerous. At the very least, you will likely be disappointed when the man can not live up to the fantasy image you’ve created. Worst case, though … that nasty Toad heard your Mating Call. You are at risk now for Toad Infestation …
Do you see the trap?
When we reveal too much in an email – without knowing the other person – we are really only speaking to ourselves. Therefore, we are really learning how to love who we have become. But – because we are hitting the Send button in our Online Dating Email Account, we are sending our vulnerabilities out into the universe.
Well, wonderful, Heidi Lee. You’re a real bundle of Joy! Thanks.
Alright, I know. I hate to crush the romance. So will you allow me to tell you how to avoid this Toad Trap?
Simple rule of thumb … If you wouldn’t say this to a stranger in the street, don’t hit the Send button.
Write it - yes. Save it to a file or a personal journal – perfect. But do not share that openess with a stranger on the Online Dating Site.
If you start to feel a connection where you are tempted to share – that is the time to move to the next step and meet at a coffee shop.
Friends and fellow Toad Kissers, I’m curious. Have any of you already fallen into this trap while Online Dating? Would you share your story with the Toad Kingdom below?
P.S. I’m hoping for a wedding invite from the yet unmarried. I’ll keep you informed!